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Feb 22 2013

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!! (To Me) aka Let Them Eat Cake!

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It’s my official WordPress Anniversary, and boy oh boy a lot has happened in the past twelve months.

Not all of it is worthy of re-visiting, and some of the stuff is heart-breaking and I prefer to look forward away from it, but some of the really cool stuff is fun for me to look back on:

Since the start of this blog site: I have started 5 more blog sites, and have published 2 books (both of which will be hot off the press in about 14 more days!), have found an attractive new location to light the spark that moves me, have started another business, have started 2 new books (both I which I hope to have released before the snow falls again next winter), have posted lots of blogs, have broken no new hearts (a personal best), and have managed to be less grumpy than happy (more positive ripples than not), have re-connected with some lovely friends from the past, have checked off a few of my “bucket list” dreams, and I am sure there is more, more, more, but all else escapes me at this moment.

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It’s good to be here with you, my friendly bloggers and readers. It is heart-swelling to experience many of the friendships that have, and are, developing. And for good, bad, ugly, and other, I wouldn’t have missed it for the world.

Thanks for being here with me.

~MUCH Love & Light.

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Jan 9 2013

My Favorite Word Is “NEXT” as I Live in the “Now” and other ponderings….

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Answer this question honestly. (No one is watching; no one can see. No one will judge you, except for you. So answer candidly.) Are your friendships and relationships toxic? Are you being fed, or are you being depleted of your finite self? Are you where you want to be? Are you with whomever you would dream up in a perfect dreamscape? Have you settled for what is, due to fear-based reasoning?

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I love the beginning of each new year. The garden needs tending. It’s time for maintenance and weeding. The new year encourages consideration of the status quo, and most of the time, incites change for the better. There is much to look over, and perhaps much to renew and improve. Some strands will be uprooted, or in some gardens, perhaps the whole thing will be left to die a natural death.

My friendships (and I can only assume that as a microcosm, this also reads true for others) change and fade and are left behind and replaced. Some are as strong as ever, and some are so bent and twisted that I no longer recognize the bond at all. And some are fresh heads pushing thru fertile soils, curiously braving the elements to check me out, and I them.

It’s not wrong. Or right. After much pondering, I am left with the thought that it is only about values. And I laugh and express gratitude that I did not get that tiny dancing moon tattoo, or the name of the torrid lover so many years ago, because values, and as a result, friendships, change. And tattoos are quite permanent. But not all friendships and relationships, despite how alluring, are meant to be so enduring.

I intend to continue to evolve. And not even the dolphin tattoo will fit into my (prayerfully) long evolutionary path of changing values, and likes and dislikes. And as we sink our toes deeper into the soils of January, I am open to the possibilities of the next. What is next to come? What next will blossom? And what remains of the past that will move forward into the future?

And so I ask again: Are your friendships and relationships toxic? Are you being fed, or are you being depleted of your finite self?

I wish you wholeness and happiness, above all else.

~Ahimsa.

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Feb 26 2012

Procrastination Is A Fear-Based Action

Gestalt is the whole of who you really are. You are meant to live a whole and fulfilled and energetically expansive life. You are not meant to live a dark and heavy existence, waiting only until death to be liberated from the self-imposed shackles that bind you.

If you are feeling angry, sad, depressed or any number of negative emotions, your whole set of signals (physical body, emotional mind, energetic spirit) is attempting to send an important message to you. What are you able to learn from noticing your feelings and sensation?

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  • Feelings of discomfort mean not being aligned body, mind, and spirit.
  • Recognizing what you don’t want is a trigger towards enlightenment.
  • Learning by contrast, (seeing how you don’t want to live) is a good way of then deciding how you do want to live, and then taking necessary actions.

Stop holding yourself apart from who you are.

  • Are you a shadow of who you really are?
  • Are you happy and fulfilled?
  • Do passion and purpose fuel your life?
  • Are you the captain of your unique ship?
  • Are you tuned in and turned on by life?
  • What vibrational level are you emitting?
  • What are you vibrationally attracting?
  • Will you finally wake up on your death-bed and discover your whole life has been squandered, is a mistake?

Can you imagine having the life of your dreams? of your conscious creation?

It begins with clarity. In order to reach a destination, one must know first decide on a destination. You wouldn’t expect to go to sleep in San Francisco, and wake up in Paris, unless you had charted the course and made the plans and taken the actions necessary to reach Paris.

Likewise, most people spend more time deciding on what’s for dinner than they spend on charting the course of life. Most folks live life in ‘default’ mode. The few exceptions are seen as ‘success’ stories and/or heroes.

How many of us make resolutions only once each year, break them a week later, and look back twelve months later only to find nothing has changed?

Taking a few minutes each evening to focus on the next day’s list of things to accomplish is a smart action. Here’s why:

  • The seeds are planted prior to sleep and are then engaged in the mind while you slumber. This means half the work is done before you even wake in the morning.
  • Organized thoughts have more impact because creating an outline provides clarity of importance.
  • Waking to a waiting list becomes a strong ethical habit that leads to success.
  • It feels good to cross off the accomplished tasks and add new challenges.
  • You’ll arrive at the destination when you take action each day in that direction.

Procrastination is a FEAR-BASED action

Each and every action we take stems from either a place of fear or of love. In the case of procrastination, there is no love; particularly, there is no self-love.

From where does the habit of procrastination stem?

Learning, as we all do, comes from a multitude of sources: schools, religious organizations, peers, care givers, the media, and most undeniably from parents. We learn thru imprinting, much as baby ducks learn by attaching to the first role model in sight. Our role models learned from their role models, and are not even aware that the offspring are absorbing the emotions, attitudes, beliefs, mores, and habits via energy exchange and both conscious and subconscious means.

What did you learn?

  • What sort of activity took place during your most formative years?
  • What procrastination style have you internalized?
  • Are you now the conscious captain of your ship? If not, who is navigating?
  • Have you taken steps to organize and plot the course of your life destination?

Procrastination will ensure you never reach that dreamed of destination. It will also ensure you have an excuse to not achieve greatness and fulfillment. If you never take the steps, you’ll never fall. You can pretend you are living, but without taking any risks. You’ll never fail. And, you’re already failing if you haven’t planned not to fail.

Procrastination will age you, and with the cumulative, continued related stress, will kill you prematurely. Until chronic adrenal insufficiency occurs, adrenaline is a quick fix, a habit-forming hit of energy delivered via the hormone, but do you really want that monkey on your dreams?

Take Your Reins

It feels good to see how far you’ve come with each step towards your chosen destination. It doesn’t feel so good to one day discover your life has been passing without guidance from the captain. Be an active participant in your life. You are the captain, and you have everything to gain with a few small actions to stay your course and enjoy the journey of your life.

Thank you, often.

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