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Sep 8 2012

Illusion and Artistry in Mirrors

Placing a mirror in a bird’s cage provides a bird with a companion, and even with a perceived lover. What the bird doesn’t recognize is that it can never be. The reflection is an illusion, an artist’s rendition of the perfect mate; it is not reality.

The same is true of humans. In order to gain authentic perspective of our self requires that we interact, and yes, mirror, our true selves in the reflection of others.

For good or for bad, or usually in the grey in-between, our core is shone brilliantly through the reflection of others. We may not like what we see, and just like the bird, we may refuse to see the illusion of us.

“What I see in others is a part of me, or I could not see it.” This is perhaps one of the first rules of gestalt. One cannot be ‘whole’ (gestalt) if one is disowning portions of the whole self. This is tricky business when watching politician, serial killers, and charlatans. What becomes clear however, is that we always have a choice. And ‘choice’ is what sets us apart.

Finding the good in others becomes more than an adage of lore. It is also the way to building a strong and healthy self-esteem.  And that’s what it’s all about.

~As always, with love and gratitude.

May 15 2012

~Humans Being Gods, Goddesses, Paupers & Monsters

We Are Humans Being Gods, Goddesses, Paupers and/or Monsters

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We are humans being. I am a human being the woman I have chosen to be. You are a human being the person you have consciously or otherwise chosen to be. This means that whether consciously chosen or not, we are individually being for example, a pauper or a god/goddess; and the universal energies are reflecting back the situations of whichever/whomever we are choosing to be.

When I consciously choose to be a goddess, I live a goddess existence, attracting ‘goddess’ conditions. When I embrace my value, and when I offer value to friends, family, clients, we both expand our light. Our collective increase in vibrational frequencies ripples endlessly into the universal pool of positives, and in return we receive glorious waves of higher stature experiences. Thus, when we consciously choose who exactly we are being everyone benefits from the acknowledgement of the creative source power within each of us. Whether we consciously choose to live either in pauperism or in abundance, the universe fully supports our right to make the choice.

Mother said, “Act your age.” Instead, the more effective message is, “Act your authentic being.”

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you God/Goddess/Source energy for free choice.

~As always, with immense love, light and gratitude.

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May 7 2012

Manifest the Life of Desire with Hypnosis and the Law of Attraction

Have you ever been hypnotized? I have, once. I wasn’t a very good candidate as I don’t give up control to anyone (least of all myself ~ ;-) Tee hee…). Since that embarrassing time of being on a stage, with some fairly cute friends laughing from the audience as I was tossed back to my seat for “not going under deep enough,” I have learned that hypnosis is not about giving up control. There is no way to stay stuck in some hellish-realm where demons attack, unless that is where one wishes to be. It is like that with life, I’ve decided. Unless we wish to create a hell-on-Earth existence, we are perfectly capable of choosing to create the life of our greatest dreams.

There is a company called Natural Hypnosis that produces high quality, extremely effective CDs that ease into our subconscious minds and can alter those hard to reach corners that keep us stuck. It’s like a nice vacuuming out of the spider webs and old worn out messages and beliefs that we really want to release. And that’s not a scary thing. That’s a wonderful opportunity.

Anyway, I’ve been working with this sort of brain clearing since 1984. Not only has technology advanced during these past decades, but so have the fields of brain research and psychology and physics and metaphysics. We now know more about the ways in which we self-sabbotage and the ways in which we filter our choices and out actions and how our internalized beliefs affect our outward expression which is our lives.

Some will say that this is “brainwashing.” To them I say that it is time to wash out what does not belong. Let’s re-define the term, and let’s get busy cleaning the place of ideas and biases and beliefs and old crap that does not effectively or efficiently serve to propel us to great potential. Let’s hose down the place that contains the muck of the past, and let’s replenish it with positively productive concepts and ideas that really move us forward. If hypnosis is a tool that helps to rid us of the gunk, then let’s all listen to these CDs and be better for the experience. And for the record, it’s not so much brainwashing as it is brain entrainment, re-training the subconscious mind into allowing in the mind-set that will free you from the shackles of the past unhelpful lessons and beliefs.

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~As always, with lots of love, rays of light, and boatloads of gratitude!

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Apr 10 2012

Forgiveness: The Other Side of the Blame Coin

Forgiveness is the other side of the blame coin.

Luckily, we don’t have to depend on the toss of a coin to determine which side to bet our lives on.

Holding on to the heavy emotions associated with blame takes a lot of energy. If you doubt this assertion, try this little gestalt technique at home:

Picture a person for whom you hold blame. Really focus in on the characteristics of this person. What does he or she look like? How is this person looking at you? Does he or she exhibit anger, loathing, disgust, or hatred? Is this image of someone who was “supposed” to be your caregiver? Is this person a close family member? Is it an authority figure? Is it God you’re angry with? How brave must one be to lash out at a powerful deity, a parent, or a boss?

Continue to hold on tightly to the image of this person. Really get into it. Hold on with all you’ve got! As you hang on to this image of the one “who done you wrong” begin to notice how holding on is affecting your body physically. Be aware of your fists; are they clenched? sweaty? relaxed? What are your hands doing? Notice next, the tenseness in your back. Notice your shoulders. Be aware of your posture as you are holding onto this image. Keep holding on. Notice your muscles. Notice the way your forehead is responding. What is your heart doing? What is your face looking like? Continue holding tight to this memory. And continue to notice how your whole body, mind, and spirit are being affected by holding on to this emotion. Hold on tighter. How does your gut feel? Notice how much energy it takes to hold on. Keep holding tight.

Are you getting tired of holding onto this old blame? Do you recognize how much you are hurting yourself by holding on? Keep holding on, and keep noticing how you are feeling physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Hang on tightly, tighter still.

Begin to be aware of how much of your life energy (chi) is wrapped up in holding onto this old emotion of blame. Do you need it? Ask yourself what you get from holding on (you get something, or you would not hold on). Perhaps you get to whine. Maybe you get a good excuse to be angry and not fully participate in your life. Maybe you just need someone to blame for your lack of success. It could be that you are just holding on because you are mimicking a role model. You could have learned to be a martyr or maybe you learned to resent others because your caregiver was resentful. Stay in touch with your energy. Keep holding tight. Use every ounce of strength you can muster to hold onto this blame.

As you begin to see where you learned the emotion of blame, and when you can find the appreciation for the emotion, only then you can make a conscious choice to either keep or release the hold. When you have identified what you get from holding on, from expending all that valuable energy, you can determine what lessons to keep and what is no longer useful. Continue to notice how the energy blockage is affecting you.

Keep holding on. Express gratitude for the emotion. Offer forgiveness to whomever it was that you have given this energy away to for so long. Now forgive yourself too. It is at this point that you can consciously make the decision to let go of the hold, slowly, as you experience the slow release, and witness the previously blocked energy once again freed to flow.

When you have completely let go of the blame, notice again how your physical body feels. How do you feel emotionally? How is your spirit freed up? Your whole/gestalt self is empowered when your energy is allowed to circulate. Creativity is expanded. Energetic frequency is heightened. Your whole/gestalt self is healthier. You have more to offer. You are empowered.

Now, because nature abhors a vacuum, think of a person who loves and supports you. Envision one who brings a smile to your mouth, and a warmth to your heart.

Just notice…  because awareness is the key to life.

Life is about choices. What effect do your choices have on your wholeness?

The gift of free will means we can choose to hold onto dysfunctional crap, or we can bless the crap and release it, thereby releasing our energy for more optimal uses. There’s always a choice to be made.

~As always, with love and light and gratitude.

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Feb 25 2012

FEAR versus LOVE ~Where Do Choices Come From?

Every single solitary decision ever made, is coming from a primal place of either love, or fear. Take a moment to contemplate that declaration: EVERY SINGLE DECISION YOU HAVE EVER MADE, OR WILL EVER MAKE, IS CREATED FROM A FOUNDATION OF EITHER FEAR OR LOVE.

What thoughts come to mind as you read that statement? Does your reactive self lash out and refuse to accept such a limiting perspective? Do you immediately look for exceptions? for ways around it? Or do you trust that there may be some link of truth to the words?

Both fear and love are primitive emotional responses that stem from the primal need to flee or fight. As humans being such, we still recognize the need to be aware of our surroundings, of strangers, of new uncertainties.

  • Fear is the quagmire that keeps us stuck, stops us from daring to take a step forward into the unknown.
  • Fear is the glue that keeps the masses glued to the television set, when time would be better spent on more rewarding activities.
  • Fear is the means of control by marketing magicians who bank, literally, on the fears of those individuals watching the nightly (always bad) news.
  • Fear keeps those eyes on the television and also on the commercial advertisements that pay mega-amounts to advertise the ‘must-have’ of the day.
  • Fear is a tool used by politicians to get votes: “Vote for me and I will save you,” is the message. But save you from what?
  • Fear is a valuable tool when awareness is attached. Sans awareness, it is a puppeteer’s strings, pulling and lifting and dropping and controlling the show.

Love is a unique commodity that keeps on growing and dividing and never loses any strength. In fact, love, when divided, actually multiplies! Wealth-gurus teach that when you give away a dollar, under the universal law of tithing, you will receive back a percentage in reciprocal fashion. When you give away love, and in the same sort of way, you will receive back a percentage in reciprocal fashion.

When choices are made from a place of love, a personal security is built. Self-esteem is fertilized by the choice itself, as well as from the release of endorphins and other feel-good emotions.

  • Love promotes health.
  • Love also fosters balance and acceptance.
  • Love is a powerful elixir and antidote to depression.
  • Love for humankind moves mountains, creates heroes where none previously existed, and propels individuals and huge masses towards actualization.
  • Love is divine, and there is no price great enough to buy real love.

Love, as opposed to fear, is a great enhancer. Fear, as opposed to love, is a great destroyer.

What we focus on will always take center stage, expanding to fill our psychic space with the element of emotion from which the focus sprouts. Knowing this, focus on what you wish to expand. If you want more love in your life, be more loving. If you want more generosity in your life, be more generous. If you want more fear in your life, spend your life focusing on all that could possibly go wrong. And if you want more hatred in your life, go away from here until you’ve learned that self-love is the foundation of world peace.

Ahimsa.

~As always, with love, light and gratitude. Jan Deelstra

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~As always, with love and light and gratitude.

Jan Deelstra