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Jun 1 2012

Order Your Hard Copy NOW! Escaping the Chrysalis: Gestalt Tools for Transformation

Woo hoo! It’s time to start ordering the uncut hard copy version of Escaping the Chrysalis postage paid now! The tools to a better life will soon be in your hands when you order through PayPal’s secure server. 

To order Escaping the Chrysalis in its full unabridged hard copy version through the secure PayPal ordering service simply click on the book cover:

Please note that the above link is NOT for the abridged Kindle Edition. The link cover above is for the full, un-cut hard copy version that will arrive in your mail within 6-8 weeks.

This is the life manual that we wish our parents had used! Unfortunately, there was no book of this kind. Escaping the Chrysalis is the guide-book to life. Whatever holds you back from realizing your limitless potential can be released with the easy to use tools contained in Escaping the Chrysalis.

  • Relationships improve.
  • Love can be attracted.
  • Finances improve and abundance is finally realized.
  • Goals previously unimagined can be reached.
  • Dreams provide answers that until now you’ve missed.
  • Enhance your self-esteem and learn.
  • Communicate effectively in any situation.
  • Define your calling and reach your desired destination.

Get out of your own way and release the barriers to fulfillment and empowerment with Escaping the Chrysalis: Gestalt Tools for Transformation.


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This is an exciting time! I am honored to offer to you the Kindle Edition of Escaping the Chrysalis: Gestalt Tools for Transformation into Divine Wholeness at this hot link Kindle Edition of Escaping the Chrysalis: Gestalt Tools for Transformation into Divine Wholeness.

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Gestalt means whole. You are whole and complete, even when you are not aware of that truth. You are perfect in your humanness. Now you just have to awaken to that realization. You deserve love, abundance, fulfillment, respect, and to live your life fully and rewardingly. You deserve to live life in balance and wellness. You are worthy.

Escaping the Chrysalis is the chosen title because just as the butterfly must struggle to gain strength and escape the chrysalis, so too are you ever stronger as a result of life’s challenges. Escaping the Chrysalis shows you how to turn those experiences into profit and how to find the gift hidden in every situation, regardless of how painful or confusing it may have been.

It is now time to break away, to fly free and liberated of the past!

Gestalt gives you the wings. Escaping the Chrysalis gives you the gestalt tools.

  • Learn to shed the holds of the past.
  • Release old messages that don’t support the wonderful you.
  • Embrace your Divine Right to fulfillment.
  • Fly to heights previously undreamed of.
  • Never again have a dream that you don’t learn from.
  • Heal the broken parts and, like Humpty, experience your wholeness.

I hope you’ll make the choice to fly free.

As always, with love and light…and flight.

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Apr 23 2012

Doing the ‘Right’ Thing or Playing the Martyr Role?

Just as there are to this yin/yang symbol, there are two sides to everything. If one cares to look at the whole picture, a whole form may be revealed. It’s like that with choices we make. There is the path we take, and there is the path we did not take. It’s not a black and white, wrong or right picture though. If it were that clear, it certainly would be easier to rest with the results of our subjective actions.

Recently, I made a decision that I believed was the ‘high’ road choice. In the end, I wanted to cause as little damage as possible. But actually in the end, I may have hurt someone I would never want to hurt, someone I considered a true friend. Now I am left wondering if my viewpoint of some rare friendships being valuable and indestructible by any Earthly arrows is unrealistic, or if not, is then simply unshared. (Realizing this reads as cryptic, just please understand that the details are less important than the results of my action and the lesson included.)

With my truth in mind, I’m analyzing whether my choice was honestly taken for the noble idealism, or as a means to martyring myself. That’s the question, isn’t it? Are our ultimate actions as pure as we portray?

There’s a little trick I’ve learned along the way with gestalt. Whenever we have a question, all we need do is make it into a statement and pay attention to how it feels. We each have a grand bull-shart detector that will not lie. We know when the truth resonates, and we know when we (or others) are spewing b.s.

In spite of how another responds to our choices, as long as our actions are not vicious or harmful in any deliberate way, and as long as we are being authentic and can look our reflection in the eye, we’ve done the “right” thing. Only we’ll know for certain.

~Ahimsa.

Excerpt from Escaping the Chrysalis

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Mar 6 2012

Projections Awareness: The Key to Life

What you see in others is a part of you; otherwise, you could not be able to see it.

Think of that statement the next time you flip off a driver, talk about someone behind his or her back, or judge another human being. It’s harsh, but it is the truth. You are as capable of any behavior as the next guy. That homeless guy over there…yes, he is a reflection of you. That famous athlete with the sex addiction, he’s you too. The altruistic soup scooper volunteering at the homeless kitchen, she’s a reflection of you too. That guy with the big mouth at the ball game, the funny comedian, the sexy mama, the librarian, all these are behaviors found in any human on this planet. All the emotions and behaviors are possibilities, as well as probabilities. With that said, I’m going to share a core secret that gestalt practitioners have known for decades. Are you ready for the key to life? Here it is:

THE KEY TO LIFE

Allow me to set the stage: A very large auditorium with cold metal folding chairs is filled with patrons who have paid large sums of money in order to come to a seminar where they will be told the secret of the ages, will be finally given the key to life. The chairs squeak and wiggle as persons of all sizes and shapes and socio-economic status, and races, and demographics share the space. Some mingle as they await the keynote speaker, and others sit restlessly in uncomfortable seats. Some read, some brought snacks and beverages from home, some are bored, and some find humor in the situation as they wait, and wait, and wait.

All exits are flanked with two large men, intimidating in stature and giving off an energy akin to junk yard guard dogs. They speak to no one. They make no eye contact. They smile not at all. They simply stand at attention in pairs at each door.

Time passes. Some folks need to use the bathroom, but are too intimidated to leave the room. Others have taken the opportunity to socialize, and some are networking with the strangers in the room. Jokes are told, and numbers exchanged, and more time passes.

A woman weeps in the center of the room, and others look past her without acknowledging her tears. People begin to clash and some even quarrel. A woman starts to scream at a man speaking belligerently, and another passes out from hunger or thirst.

Suddenly, the heavy velvet curtain parts and a slight built bespectacled man walks out on stage. The microphone screeches as he adjusts the knob and clears his throat. The patrons take their seats.

“Hello! And welcome to The Key to Life seminar,” the man begins. “Who would like to come up and discover the ‘key to life?”

A large man charged the stage before the guards could stop his movement. “I will be first to learn the key to life! I have paid a LOT of money to be here at this sorry stupid place! I’m sick and tired! I’m outta here as soon as I get what I came for,” the big man said as he plowed his way across to the bespectacled host.

The host smiled, and pushed his glasses up his nose as he answered, “that’s right. You got it. Who else wants to come up and get the key to life?”

The now-speechless large man fell backward, almost losing his balance as he scowled in confusion, and rocked on his heels. The guards led him from the stage as another young man bounced up the stairs.

“I came to get the key to life, but instead I found a party! This is really cool! I’m having a great time,” said the young man.

“That’s right. You got it,” said the host.

A timid woman stood. The back of her slacks were wet and soiled. Tears carved streams thru her powdered pink cheeks. Black mascara drops dotted the area beneath her bottom lashes, and her red eyes glistened as she whined, “This is terrible. I wet myself. This is just awful.”

“That’s right. You got it,” said the host.

A woman sitting nearby stood and walked briskly onto the stage. “This is the most incredible adventure I have ever been on! I have met so many awesome people and even shared a sandwich with a very interesting man. I’m so fortunate to be here. Thanks so much for having this Key to Life seminar,” she said.

“That’s right. You got it,” the host said.

This story could go on ad nauseum (or perhaps it already has!) but the point (as in all things according to gestalt) is simple. The key to life is that it is whatever you choose to make it. You can see it as fun, boring, painful, horrible, wonderful, awful, lonely, intriguing, exciting, inspiring, or any number of choices. You have the gift of choice in your hand. You can decide to interpret your experience in any way that you choose.

You hold the key to life.

*For an example of how one woman chose to define her life, check out the true story:

Blessings in the Mire by J. Deelstra. http://www.buybooksontheweb.com/product.aspx?ISBN=0-7414-3850-X

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Feb 27 2012

Half-Assed is a Mirror Reflection

Pondering Half-Assed-ness

I admit that one of the most aggravating and unpopular behaviors, in my observation, is what I refer to as half-assedness. You know; those things that are done minimally, sloppily, lazily, half-heartedly, or down right poorly.

“If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing right.”

Aside from my mother, I don’t know who attribute that quote to. Whomever said it, apparently left a scar because I fully concur. Half-assed jobs are a lick and a promise, a quick and inattentive wipe or pass with a dry rag. And half-assed jobs are the reason for the adage that says, “if something is worth doing it is worth doing right.”

Half-assedness, which I probably should refer to as half-heartedness so the profanity police don’t flag me as indecent, is passive-aggressive behavior. I’m not a fan.

Half-hearted living is ineffectual. Rather than create a masterpiece meal, a half-a$$ed kid’s meal is what’s for dinner. Rather than a full bear hug, a little air-smooch passes for a caring and passion embrace. Instead of a well cared for home, the webs and dust mites rule the domain.

Half-hearted property owners, rude store keepers, insolent managers, egotistical brutes with little regard for others, all these personalities have egged me on to consider creating a web site called www.Half-Assed.com. But in spite of thinking about it (a lot), I did not create the site. Someone else beat me to it.

I believe it best to ignore the negative and focus on the positive. Somewhere along the way I’ve learned that whatever I place my focus on expands. Clearly it makes no sense to spurn the half-hearted with the fertilizer of my attention. Also, in the law of attraction sense, I find it best to turn towards the light when I begin to experience my own dark side….

The raw truth is, half-assed behaviors make me nervous, anxious, and annoyed. It is my pet peeve of all complaints. What I’ll share with you though, is this little life secret: As a Gestalt Practitioner of over 25 years, I know full well that any behavior I see in others (despite how ugly or annoying it may be) is a part of me or I would not be able to see it.

It is not possible to recognize in others what is not a part of the self. And being judgmental doesn’t make the other person wrong; and it certainly doesn’t make me right. It only means that I am judging.

There are times in life, when it is easy to fall into a habit of criticizing others, or pitting “us against them” as if life were a contest. It is not, decidedly a contest, and even it were, we share more in common than not. Awareness of how one is feeling, and of the words that come out of one’s mouth is a self-empowering trait to be honed.

When nasty judgmental biases escape from the mouth, step back and determine where those lessons were first learned. At what point did you internalize the biases that has you seeking to focus on the differences as opposed to the commonalities of being human, despite the cultural variations?

Listen for your own prejudices to surface, and make a conscious decision to embrace diverse experiences. We are all perfect in our humanness and we are all ONE. I AM, and YOU ARE and WE ARE ONE CONNECTED.

The onus is on me to do things as well as I am able with the short span I am allowed on this Earth. It is up to me to tend to my environment, to nurture my body, mind, and spirit, and to set and reach targets each day. It is up to me to not write half-assed blogs and to edit, edit, edit, every manuscript I send out. It is my duty to put as much truth into every Spiritual Gestalt group as I can professionally administer. It’s even up to me to mindfully attend to my chores and nurture my various relationships fully. This includes tenderly fostering the relationship with my whole (gestalt) self.

I challenge you today to give full mindful attention to your relationships, your environments, and most importantly, to your unique and special self. You deserve it! Challenge yourself to nurture your spirit, to feed your mind and body with health-promoting substances. Mindfully grow a little every day. I challenge me to the same.

~As always, with love and light.  

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