What are you asking for?

Today I’m thinking about how most conversations are stories from the past. Sit in any coffee shop and eavesdrop for even a moment, and you’re sure to hear “war stories” about what happened when….

Stories are about broken hearts, about never enough [fill in the blank], life is hard, I’m always (or never) blah, blah, blah. Comments are like comparing scars, and no one ever wins the competition….

• There are no “good” men/women.
• Rich people are greedy.
• I get wealthy I’ll lose all my friends.
• I might get scammed.
• It’s hard to make money.
• All politicians are corrupt.
• Women will always nag.
• Men will always cheat.
• I’m too busy. I never have enough time.
• I’ll never be fit because my genetics are bad.

Like it or not, we each have our stories. And most of them become barriers and blocks to our success.

Most of those stories are also not true. Stories are simply the interpretations that have been made thru filters…filters learned frequently from external sources such as from parents, friends, society, cultures, religious and educational institutions, and yes, as a result of how you interpret the past….

Maybe you’ve experienced a bad breakup and the result is that you sabotage any chance for a healthy relationship based on old internalized beliefs. Your perfect mate could show up, but because you have the old stories filtering your present experience, you stop the chance of connecting at an authentic level. It’s not a conscious decision to repell the love of your life; it’s an internal, often unconscious reaction that has it’s roots in the old stories and beliefs….

Ditto, maybe you’ve had some success with money, but because you’ve internalized beliefs about money, about your ability to make money, about how rich people are…you sabotage your wealth and abundance by over-spending, by stopping the momentum of abundance flowing into your life, and then you can sit back in self-righteousness and arrogantly proclaim, “See, I told you so” as your inner story manifests once again…reaffirming the internalized belief that strengthens with the experience.

Maybe you’ve told yourself that you’re doomed to a life of ill-health, poverty, loneliness, boredom, disrespect, laziness, working hard at a job you loathe, living in a body that you don’t love to be in…and all those stories have manifest the life you currently experience. Hmm….

How to eliminate those inner beliefs that keep you stuck in the cycle of not enough

To eliminate the blocks that stop love, money, body image, career, or whatever you are wanting to attract (and also what you want to stop repelling!) requires first that you become aware of your inner beliefs, and of the ways in which those beliefs hold you stuck in the same old life experience.

Notice. Without judging yourself, simply notice. Notice your thoughts as if you’re a bystander. What are the predominant thoughts that impact your life experience?

• What’s your current story around money?
• What’s your current story around healthy relationships?
• What’s your current story about your heritage and how it impacts you?
• What’s your current story about the country you live in and how it impacts your happiness?
• What’s your current story about your age?

When you step back and look at all you have internalized, it becomes clear that beliefs are just stories that you are choosing to believe. And these stories/beliefs can be re-written, re-framed into the pathway that leads to success in any area of your life. And by the way, those stories create chaos in your mind that further hinders your progress….

This week, listen to those around you. What’s being said/affirmed?

Listen to your personal internal dialog too. What are you telling yourself? Remember, just notice. Don’t judge yourself or others. Simply notice what the dialog is that’s forming the story that is forming a belief, but which is not true—it’s simply a story being told.

How to change your life

Transforming internalized beliefs from worn out stories that keep you stuck on the non-productive hamster wheel of wasted energy, into beliefs that make you unstoppable, lovable, prosperous, creative, open, healthy, is not hard work. It’s harder to remain in the dis-comfort/dis-ease of not living up to your highest potential and living your best life in the short time you have here. And there is a solution that takes no money, no special props, and which effects real change in quick time.

How do I know this? I know this because I have experienced the results personally, as well as having witnessed thousands of others as they un-learn the un-healthy, and re-learn new ways of being.

The Secret:

Years ago a major movie came out about the “SECRET” to manifesting anything you ever want based on the law of attraction. It was touted as the modern age “secret” to having it all.

But wait, so many tried and failed…so what happened? Why didn’t everyone who watched The Secret, end up living on a private island and driving a Ferrari? Why did the process fail for so many?

Affirmations work. Visualizing works. The tools touted in The Secret work. The thing is, the affirmations need to be intentional. All those stories that you’ve been telling yourself are affirmations, whether they are positive or negatively affirming your life cicumstances.

Only when you INTENTIONALLY affirm WHAT YOU DO WANT, will you manifest WHAT YOU DO WANT. Leaving life up to the inner stories will probably not lead you to the lifestyle you dream of….

The Secret Sauce to Manifesting the Life You Desire
(and DESERVE)

Your self-worth is the secret sauce that’s been left out of the process of your success in any area of your. Let me clarify that statement. Your stories of who you are and what you are deserving of, are at the center of the life you are currently living, and your self-worth is the core ingredient of your successful outcome.

In other words, you manifest the life your beliefs dictate.

You manifest your life based on what you believe you are worthy of. Your filters of self-worth and deserving are stopping you from manifesting the life you desire, and they are keeping you stuck.

There’s power in that statement. Because YOU can DECIDE to write your story. But to do so, you must DECIDE what you want your story to be. And then start to live that truth by mindfully creating it. Listen for the beliefs to pop up and try to keep you in the status quo. And when they do, re-write that belief into something that actually supports your forward growth. Be gentle. Be consistent. Be proactive. Be the conscious creator of your life, by being conscious of the stories you tell…

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XOX,
J.