Pay attention to how you feel as you read this statement: Decision is the moment you stop playing small and start playing to win; It’s the moment you choose to stop living by default.

If you’ve been with me for a time, you know that I ask you to get in touch with your feelings as a source of guidance. That’s because your feelings are telling you something. And when you learn to fully trust your inner guidance source, you have more control over your conscious life creation.

Maybe you’ve heard it before, that most people spend more time planning a short vacation than they spend on planning their life. The exceptions are the people who appear successful in life. At closer look, it’s clear to see that these people are successful because they plan to be successful. Living life by default is somethinng they have decided to NOT do.

My coaching starts always where the client is, and THAT is my suggestion to you; Take a moment, or take as long as it takes, and honestly look at where you are at this exact moment:

• Are you where you thought you would be by now?
• Have you created a daily action plan to create the results you desire?
• If you don’t have a plan for your life, how will you know when you get to your desired outcome?

To really get to a desired outcome, I suggest reverse engineering your pathway to success. Start by writing down or drawing a depiction of your perfect desired results that you will achieve when you follow this framework for your dream life creation. Get really clear about what this end result looks like:

• Who is there with you?
• What does your home look like?
• How much income do you have each month?
• Where do you live?
• What do you drive?
• How does this feel, now that you’ve here?
• What happened just before you achieved this success?

The more detail and emotions you can come up with, the more power this experience will have. Really portray the picture (with words or images) of your desired outcome. Feel how it feels to have achieved this desired lifestyle. The amount of imagination you apply to this, the more rapidly you will realize true results, so allow yourself to sink into the full feeling associated with having created this life. I whole heartedly recommend you keep this in a place where you will see it multiple times per day, and allow yourself to feel into it each time you see it.

Now that you have completed the vision of your ideal life, consider what is happening just before you reached this beautifully rewarding end goal. Write or draw this stage out next:

• What was the biggest action or actions you took that led you to this point?
• What programs or services or coaching did you invest in to help you achieve this outcome?
• Who did you need to become in order to achieve this level of success?

When you invest in yourself—when you take the time and energy to create a plan to create the life you desire and deserve, you will see the desired results. If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.

Whether we ever work together in one-on-one coaching or not, I implore you to decide to consciously create a life by design. You, as much as anyone else on the planet deserve to live a life you love. Now, tell me in the comments below, how are you going to make that a reality?

PS~ Did you know that a full color workbook that contains much of the magic that I have shared over the 4 decades of my coaching career is available on Amazon? The Escaping the Chrysalis Companion Workbook has detailed processes to take your confidence and your life to unimagined success. The workbook is priced around $97 and is worth every dime. The full color print is expensive to manufacture, and honestly, if I offered it to you as an eBook, you would pay more for the ink to print it out.

Now let’s talk about the REAL reason the workbook is a bargain at $97:

• What will your life be, when you have access to all the astonishing tools I use in my 1:1 coaching practice?
• What if you could open a workbook to find the best technique for releasing what doesn’t support you?
• What if you had access to content that helped you to create the best loving relationship of your dreams?
• What if you learned to communicate clearly and diffuse any conflict?
• What if you learned to speak up—to own your voice and get your needs met?
• What if you had a self-love toolkit that bolstered your self-esteem and raised your confidence to new levels?

The Escaping the Chrysalis Companion Workbook* is worth it’s weight in gold, as it offers you the tools and techniques for taking ultimate control of every aspect of your life. Check it on Amazon. You’ll be glad you did.

*By the way, there is a naked woman on the cover of the workbook; she is the model for the Statue of Liberty. She is the cover art because she represents freedom. If this is offensive to you, please do not buy the book.

xox, j

In a previous post (linked below), I mentioned that the number one killer of dreams is indecision. Successful people make quick decisions and they stick to them. What action can you DECIDE to take right now, at this moment? What action will lead you to the next logical step to creating the life you desire and deserve? Do it.

xo J.

PS~Did you catch the post from a few days ago that also speaks to the power of decision?
Check it out: https://jandeelstra.com/decide/